Commentary: Where are all the Real Dommes?

I’ve been a submissive male for as long as I can remember and I have spent a lot of time constructing some very elaborate and specific fantasies about what female domination should look like.

For more than twenty years I have dreamed of exactly what a dominant woman should wear, right down to the brand of whip she would wear on her belt (left side please!) and her shoes size (8 1/2, with at least 4″ stiletto heels on boots that go just over the knee, with laces not buckles). Seriously, I have put a lot of time into this!

Of course, her hair is pulled back and her makeup is “severe” looking and she is wearing a red leather corset and a black miniskirt.

This isn’t rocket science.

I have prepared a list of fetishes and activities that she is definitely into. Exactly how and in what order she performs them is entirely up to her. In other words, I’ve done the prep work and set the scene. All she needs to do is show up and do what I want. I would think that would take a lot of pressure off, especially at the first meeting.

I am willing to compromise on looks and height. She doesn’t have to actually be a professional model, just have the kind of looks that would allow her to if she chose that path. Any height over 5’8″ works as well.

I’ve talked with tons of women, but it turns out none of them are the “true dommes” I am looking for.

The suggestion I hear most often is that I find a professional dominatrix, but if she is in it for the money then it ruins it for me. I need this to be something she is really into, you know?

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